The concept from the text I decided to discuss was the features of satisfying relationships. There are four components to this concept and they are investment, commitment, trust, and comfort with relational dialectics. With all four of these components in tact in is almost guaranteed your relationship with thrive. Investments are what we put into relationships that we could not retrieve if the relationship were to end. Investing can count as materially, time, money, thought, and feelings. Commitment is a decision to remain in a relationship through thick and thin. It is defined as a decision not a feeling. If a couple is committed then they are less likely to look for a reason to end the relationship. Trust involves believing in another’s reliability and emotionally relying on another to look out for the wellbeing of the relationship. It does not come automatically; it is given over time in the relationship. Comfort with relational dialectics defined as understanding opposing forces that are continuous and normal in relationships. Just like the little fights couples may have day to day. This section really helped me with my own personal relationship so I would definitely recommend it.
Petey,
ReplyDeleteI also agree with you that this was a great section to read. All four of these components go hand in hand in creating a long lasting and healthy relationship. More often than not, many times people can get wrapped up in the lying, cheating, and the mind games and it’s because those relationships are lacking the investment, commitment, trust, and comfort. In my opinion, the most important of the four is trust. I believe that one cannot even have a relationship if the parts do not trust each other. It’s with trust that couples are emotionally invest in each other without having the fears of cheating and infidelity. I also agree that this information has helped me with my own relationship and I think this has allowed my boyfriend and I to grow, not only as individuals, but as partners as well.
I found this section of the chapter interesting to read! I really enjoyed reading this and thought about my own relationship as I read it. In the text, the author talks about couples that feel satisfied in their relationship because both partners invest equally. I have been in other relationships in the past when I did not feel that my partner was investing as much as I was. This is exactly why we broke up. My partner now invests equally and I’m very happy in this relationship. I think that the level of commitment within a relationship is also very important and needs to be discussed openly so that both partners are on the same page. Additionally, Trust is one of the most important elements in a relationship. I’ve heard many people say that it is “hard to earn and easy to lose”. It is so true. Finally, the text discusses comfort with relational dialects. This section addressed tension within relationships and explains a lot about how my boyfriend and me interact.
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