Styles of Loving

The concept I found most interesting and chose to talk about after reading chapter eleven is the styles of loving. This was new to me because I had no idea what so ever that there were more than one way to love let alone six different ways. The six different styles of loving are Eros, storge, ludus, pragma, mania, and agape. The three primary styles of love are eros, storge, and ludus. Eros is a powerful, passionate style of love that blazes to life suddenly and dramatically. Storge is a comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility. Ludus is the final primary style of love and it is a playful love. The three secondary styles of love are pragma, mania, and agape. Pragma is a sensible or practical type of love. Mania is passionate, sometimes obsessive love that includes emotional extremes.  And finally agape, which is a selfless love that is based on giving to others, not on receiving rewards from them. 

Commitment or Love

To be completely honest i have not really experienced a relationship with just love or just commitment. My relationships have consisted of both of those things. In relationships where there is commitment but not love there is no intimacy and compassion for one another. But on the other hand the relationship is a loyal and committed one. Committed relationships can involve romantic and sexual feelings, with a person you find irreplaceable. Commitment is the intention to remain involved with a certain relationship. Love and commitment are completely different, love is a feeling based on the rewards of involvement with another person, while commitment is a decision to remain in a relationship. The impact of commitment involves the ability to get through barriers such as family disapproval, financial hardship, and sickness. The impact of love is intimacy, commitment, and passion so in essence commitment is a part of love. Love is a culmination of different feelings and actions. It has a huge impact on a person mentally and physically.

Online Vs. Face to Face Relationships

I do not believe it is ethical what so ever for people to represent themselves inaccurately in an online sort of community. It is deceiving to the individuals interested in that person portraying themselves as something they are not. I have heard of people photos shopping pictures of themselves on Facebook and other networking sites. I think it is pretty pathetic to do that to a picture just so you can receive more attention from other online users. I would definitely call this unethical because in fact you are pretty much giving a false identity of yourself. I understand in some communities it is accepted as sort of a “second life” role play. This is just my opinion on this topic. I believe online relationships can be more deceitful then face to face ones but not by much. There are a lot of ways to be deceiving in a face to face relationship, I just feel it is easier in an online one since you do not see the actually person in real life.