From this chapter I found two things I find interesting. Deep acting and surface acting are part of feeling rules which tell us what we have a right to feel or what we are expected to feel in particular situations. Feeling rules can reflect anything such as values of cultures and social groups. Deep acting has to do with controlling or managing ones inner feelings. This involves learning what one should and should not feel. For example, as a child I was taught that I should feel grateful when given a gift even if I did not like the gift. Deep acting requires changing how we perceive and label events and occurrences. Surface acting is the monitoring of outward expression of inner feelings. It has to do with controlling emotions rather than feelings. For instance, as a child we learn to say thank you when receiving a gift. Expressing gratitude is emphasized more than feelings grateful in this case.
You make a very good point right there. Thanks to you describing the differences, it helps quite a bit now that I understand how this book works. Not to mention that people can easily call emotions and feelings the same thing. Yes we do monitor our outward appearance while we are in a specific case or situation that we have to look like the opposite we are feeling right now. Example, you can't be sad that the girl or boy you liked came up to you and told you she or he got a boyfriend or girlfriend, you have to be happy for them and congratulate them. That is monitoring your outward appearance.
ReplyDeleteI really liked that you chose the concept of two acts that tells us what feelings we should feel for certain situations. I can reflect a lot based upon your post. Ever since I was a child, my parents taught me to be polite and not show an overflow of emotions when receiving gifts from others. I never understood the exact reason why until recently. I thought it was pretty neat since our minds are trained to process these types of situation so well that we all do it naturally. I really think that the definition of deep acting and surface acting explains well how our minds work! Great post!
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