I would have to say the relationship with my girlfriend is a relationship that has become closer over time. In the earliest stage of our relationship we were still trying to figure each other out even though we had known each other for quite a while before. There were certain things we did not know about each other. A lot of flirting was going on between us. At the beginning I guess our relationship would be closer to a I-You relationship even though I believe we communicated more than that. During that stage we talked about school, friends, and other random stuff; Nothing really too personal at the time. We avoided talks about family, past relationships, and gossip about things. Those subjects were for our best friends at the time. In our relationships current state we talk about each and everything there is to talk about. I mean after three years together there really are no secrets between each other. There is not one thing we don’t talk about. We have become one another’s best friend after everything we have experienced together throughout our relationship. I can definitely identify differences in experiences but that is not likely since we have experienced basically everything together.
I definitely would have to agree with your example of your relationship with your girlfriend. When two people are interested in each other or have a small crush on someone, you tend to start of small in a way. This is the time you ask each other questions just to get to know one another, flirt a little :-), and keep it simple. As time goes by and the interest in this particular person grows, there’s a chance you move on to the I-You communication where there are more chances to open up and have more personal interactions between each other. Many people get the chance to experience the I-Thou communication, which is a great thing when you get to the point of feeling more comfortable with one another.
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